Many categories of self have common characteristics, and there is value in exploring them. By understanding their distinct strengths and weaknesses, we may gain a clearer picture of how each relates to the other.
Self-Esteem– Also known as self-worth, a person’s self-esteem is forged during the first seven or eight years of life. During this period, we’re influenced by our families, teachers, peers, religion, and the media. Our initial views of ourselves are also shaped by the roles we’re playing (ad sexes: we may be egocentrico centric), and the range of emotions we experience.
Self-awareness – Arises when we express our true feelings and are confident enough to accept who we are. The skills needed to explore yourself-the ability to reflect and accept, both those parts of us which we reject and those parts of ourselves which we accept-involves a lot of attention to the various parts of ourselves.
A further exploration of the self involves objectively to understanding the influences each of us has in the world, the things in which we can identify, and how to allow or disallow influences. Such a scholarly undertaking can’t be taken lightly, for without such attention, a person will remain fixed in their unthinking responses and reactions and rarely be aware of the many influences to their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
Meditation and other practices to quiet the egoic mind and come to understand the world are the most well-regarded methods for Quieting the mind and Self-Searching. Surprisingly this was shown to me by someone who does advanced iron works. (There is held the belief that meditation is only for “seniors” and “encyclopedias”, and that a person needs to be spiritually and mentally advanced to partake of the practice. Perhaps the “sensors” simply need a bit more of an understanding of themselves and their abilities-Advanced people, in this case, advise their students to attend courses and seminars on the psychology of interpersonal behavior.
A clear mind, which is the basis for self-awareness, does not have to be at the other end of a long spectrum, either. A person can maintain their equanimity regardless of the opinions of others, and seek truth wherever it leads. The equanimity that can be maintained as the result of clear understandings of one’s part in the world, and of the larger universe, is primarily responsible for the maintenance of harmony in the individual.
The ego, on the other hand, is continually trying to create judgments and comparisons in an effort to known by way of definition. All that this ego can known about reality is the definition given the known by the mind. Nothing more confining is tighter than the ego’s self-imposed definitions, and the resulting assertions of “me-ness” that it puts forth. A person suffering from the delusion that he/she is a separate “me” may feel out of control in any situation because the ego is concerned with trying to formulate judgments that define any prolonging action.
A longer tail or snagging on the aura is the result of emotional thinking, and is characteristic of the self-absorbed mind. The associated lowered consciousness works to produce restlessness and upheaval in a person’s life, because the mind seeks to regain cellular memory. The quality of tranquility achieved is the result of relieving the mind of superfluous definitions and instead allowing it to pursue spontaneously the laws of life.
How Does Your Life Stand?
The questions, “How’s things going?” or “You seem pretty confused. What’s going on?” point in a natural direction, allowing a natural answer to form. When our minds are focused on the minutia of details, we often get a bit in our own way. Or, we get preoccupied with the hows and the whys of things, engaging ourselves in an “emotional story.”
With a shift in consciousness, this can be seen as a kind of karmic phase, a time to clear the mental clutter and align the mind in a different way. The familiar way of interpreting this is to view this time as a time for evaluation and possible closure, or as a time for reflection. The important principle to remember is that any concern is a call for attention. It is attention to our mind that makes the difference.
Shifting consciousness is one half of an equipping process, the other half is experiencing that shifting. The equipping process consists of a commitment to remain in a state of openness and not to be yoked to a single way of thinking, either emotional or intellectual. The experience of this equipping process is more cold than say it is a commitment to actually complete anything.
Consciousness leads to could and the could carries with it the energy that creates the new. Could is called the creative force that continually Discoveries more and newer realities.